Gwyneth Paltrow’s guide to co-parenting advice finally feels ~real~

After 12 years of marriage, Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin split. But unlike so many separations, theirs was seemingly without conflict and all decisions were made for the good of the kids. 

When Gwyneth Paltrow announced her separation from then-husband and Coldplay front man Chris Martin, she introduced everyone to the idea of “conscious uncoupling”.

They had been married for 12 years, they “just didn’t quite fit together,” she told British Vogue earlier this year, “but man, did we love our children.”It wasn’t a split marked by anger, jealousy, or pain but rather a mutual, rational conclusion that their relationship could no longer be.

“We have this idea that just because we break up, we can’t love the things about the person anymore that we loved and that’s not true,” she said in a recent interview on The Drew Barrymore Show.

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“We are all part good and part bad. It’s not binary — we are all grey area. We all are trying our best. I really wanted my kids to not be traumatised, if it were possible.”

The Avengers star conceded that running into your ex can sometimes be awkward, especially for those who share kids and high profile careers, but a commitment to the greater good of the family is super important.

“Chris and I committed to putting [the kids] first and that’s harder than it looks because some days you really don’t want to be with the person that you are getting divorced from,” she continued.

“But if you’re committed to having family dinner, then you do it.

“You take a deep breath and you look the person in the eye and you remember your pact and you smile and you hug and you joke and recommit to this new relationship that you are trying to foster.”

If times were sometimes hard, Gwyneth and Chris made their split look pretty smooth. And she acknowledged they still both consider each other family despite their marriage being over.

[My] relationship with Chris now is better than our marriage was,” she said.