How Cardi B and Megan Thee Stallion are setting our vaginas free
It’s 2020 and some of us are still put off by women talking about sex in a frank, explicit way. Cardi B and Megan Thee Stallion are on a road to sexual liberation, and sex coach Georgia Grace loves it.
15 years after 50 Cent enticed us to “lick the lollipop” in a sexually-aggressive rap anthem, Cardi B and Megan Thee Stallion use similar themes and language in ‘W.A.P.’, reclaiming historically derogatory words like ‘whore’ and ‘bitch’ and are taking ownership of their arousal, genitalia, and sexual desires.
So many men have done it before them—and the lyrics to ‘W.A.P.’ are literally dripping with sensuality—but while few cried vulgarity when 50 Cent uttered “I melt in your mouth girl, not in your hands”, people seem to have a LOT of opinions about this track.
For the uninitiated, ‘W.A.P.’ stands for ‘wet ass p—y’, i.e. a frank reference to natural, normal female lubrication. The song makes many references to the women’s desired penis size of their sexual partners, kegel exercises, orgasm, and both giving and receiving oral sex.
Sex coach Georgia Grace, who personally loves the song, put the discussion to her Instagram followers and the reaction was largely positive. Some people didn’t like the song or the beat but they loved the empowering message, while there was a small group that found the lyrics or the concept of explicit female sexuality “challenging”.
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The negative responses weren’t gender-exclusive, either, but, Grace concedes, “We can’t underestimate the power the patriarchy has over issues, regardless of gender”. It’s frightening, she believes, and a sign there’s still a lot of progress to make in breaking down societal expectations of women.
“It’s such an insight into where we’re still at where we’re still at when it comes to pleasure and sexuality of women, it’s widely not accepted yet that women can be powerful, autonomous humans who desire sex, and be active and engaged in every sexual experience,” she says.
But even though the song has been largely praised as a “sex-positive triumph” (LA Times) and a “deliciously filthy… joyful role-reversal”, (NBC), Grace concedes it explores one sexual perspective, that of a “wet ass p—-” and some have understood these lyrics as an attempt to shame ‘dry vaginas’, though perhaps better interpreted as ‘hey ladies, this is something that happens and this is normal’.
“‘W.A.P.’ doesn’t exactly paint an inclusive picture of female arousal,” she admits.
“For lots of people with vulvas, it’s very natural that you don’t lubricate. If that’s the case, use lots of lube.”
She adds: “Actually, everyone should be using lots of lube, it makes every sexual experience better.”
Potential ‘dry-shaming’ aside, Cardi B and Megan Thee Stallion have already achieved the apparent goal of ‘W.A.P.’; to challenge and ultimately change the discourse around female sexuality, desire, and arousal.
“This is a celebration of sex,” she says.
“They’re talking about the power they have without shame… It’s really important for women to be seen as active, engaged, autonomous humans, whether it be a sexual act with their own body or with other people.”
Does she think it’ll start a movement? All the videos trying to replicate the choreography in viral social media posts suggests it might. Of course, the road to sexual liberation is long and we’re clearly not there yet, but Grace says “art is a great tool in a revolution.”