“I’m a male escort and I know what women want”

Ex-lawyer turned stay-at-home dad Mitch Larsson became an escort – at 41. Now he shares what he’s learnt about women and sex, and why orgasms aren’t everything.

I go by the name Mitch Larsson. This isn’t my real name, but in order to do what I do for a living, it’s important to retain at least one barrier.

Anyone who knows me knows that I’m an otherwise pretty open book. It’s been a couple of years since I threw caution to the wind at 41 and entered the wonderful world of escorting. I can honestly say it was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.

My clients have provided an insight seen by very few men, and while I don’t profess to be any sort of expert on women (as no man can), I thought it would be interesting to share a little of what I’ve noticed.

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Women know what they want…but they don’t say it

The women I’ve met know what they want in the bedroom, but quite often aren’t comfortable, or made to feel comfortable enough, to say it clearly and precisely.

They ask, “Is this OK?”, “Do you like that?” or even, “Am I doing this right?” but they rarely tell me how they’re feeling unless I prompt them.

My clients obviously know their sweet spots better than I ever could, so I make my job easier by asking them exactly how they’re most likely to orgasm.

Orgasms take time

When talking to my clients about what helps them orgasm, I reassure them that I enjoy the process as much as they do.

I want them to know they can completely relax and be unconcerned about whether I’m enjoying myself.

I encourage them to almost block me out and forget I’m there if necessary so they can concentrate on riding the waves that eventually lead them to climax.

I understand the process takes time and patience – more for some, less for others. Anywhere from five to 15 minutes, in most cases.

Orgasms aren’t everything

When my clients don’t orgasm, I’m always amazed at how little this seems to bother them. It would obviously be nice if it did happen every time, but it’s the entire love-making process from the talking and flirting to the kissing and cuddling that they come to me for.

I’ve had rare experiences of clients becoming irritated if they don’t orgasm and assuming the booking should only end once that occurs, but this isn’t the case with the majority.

Most are more than satisfied with kind, loving intimacy where we’ve both given it a red-hot go.