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Mainstream porn is really problematic, but there’s a better option


Watching porn is on the rise among Aussie women as self-pleasure becomes less stigmatised. But the mainstream porn industry is rife with ethical issues, exploitation, and misogyny, so sex coach Georgia Grace encourages the watching of more ethical content.

There’s a troublesome fact when it comes to young Aussies and sex: they’ve probably watched porn before receiving proper sexual education. You can’t blame young ones for being curious, but shockingly one in three Australians under the age of eight have tried to watch hardcore porn in the last six months (this includes accidental access through pop-ups as well as deliberate searching).

This is problematic for several reasons: when these children reach sexual maturity, they may have a warped understanding of what a real-life sexual experience is; even worse, they may not have a solid understanding of consent and mutual respect in the bedroom.

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“Mainstream porn is a performance, it is highly likely that the positions or acts you watch in porn will not be pleasurable (or sometimes even possible) in real-life sex,” says sex coach and We-Vibe ambassador Georgia Grace.

“I’ll often have clients in-session who say they ejaculate prematurely as they can’t last for an hour. They don’t realise that lasting for five to 10 minutes is completely healthy and they compare themselves to the actors on screen who last for over an hour – not realising, like all film sets, the actors have breaks.”

It’s also important to remember that, while the ‘money shot’ of vaginal penetration leading to orgasm, a majority of women cannot orgasm through penetration alone but rather need clitoral stimulation simultaneously.

What’s the better option?

First of all, pay for your porn, says Grace.

“The best porn in life isn’t free! It’s important to pay for porn for a few reasons: you support the industry, and everyone involved in the process from the actors, producers, filmmakers, directors,” she says.

It also ensures the content you’re watching has been made ethically and it’ll still offer you the same opportunity for arousal, sexual self-discovery, and chance to fantasise and experiment with kinks you may not have been exposed to before in a safe, respectful context.

“Ethical porn is made legally, consensually with respect for boundaries where everyone involved feels safe and respected, the working conditions are safe, it celebrates humanness and sexual and body diversity, and pays performers and filmmakers fairly – just to name a few,” says Grace.

“Basically, everyone feels comfortable, respected, and human from the beginning to end of the process.”

And isn’t that the greatest turn-on of all?