Top picks from sex expert Chantelle Otten
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We asked leading Australian psycho-sexologist and Womanizer ambassador Chantelle Otten for her pro expertise on the best sex toys – and whether you’re familiar with the world of self-pleasure or just starting out, these are sure to become your new favourites.
The past few months have seen sex toy sales skyrocket as socially-distanced people seek out new ways to seek connection and pleasure in a globally stressful time, but according to pleasure brand Womanizer, only 24 percent of Aussie women have tried masturbating in isolation.
Masturbation has been considered a dirty word for a long time, but the truth is there’s no cause for shame – it’s a perfectly healthy and fun practice that can boost your mood, relieve anxiety, improve your skin, and help you sleep better, among a myriad other things.
Not to mention that it’s currently Masturbation Month (yep, that’s a thing), so there’s never been a better time to explore your sexuality. If you’re new to this particular type of self-love and are feeling a little intimidated, sex toys such as vibrators are a great option to branch out into.
I asked Chantelle Otten, leading Australian Psycho-Sexologist and Womanizer ambassador, for her top tips on delving into the world of sex toys. Here’s what she recommends.
Best sex toys for beginners
This clitoral suction stimulator uses Womanizer’s patented Pleasure Air Technology to stimulate your clitoris without physical contact – making it great for total newbies who aren’t sure where to begin. It offers four levels of intensity, is waterproof, and is also super lightweight and ergonomically shaped.
Chantelle’s tips: “Remember this is the perfect beginner toy, so start by putting this on the lowest setting and moving it in circular motions around the clitoris (not on top) and lowly start to build the pleasure in the sensitive areas. Add a bit of lube for extra pleasure.”
The Womanizer Liberty is also a clitoral stimulator, with slightly more advanced tech – so it’s still super easy to use, but provides you with a few more options. There are six levels of suction and massaging air waves and two different sizes of suction heads (because no two clitorises are the same!), as well as a magnetic travel case for on-the-go fun.
Chantelle’s tips: “Building on intensity is the key to the Womanizer Liberty, starting on the lowest setting, create a figure-eight movement around the clitoris and increase the intensity using the + button on the device, building up your pleasure and sensation to find your perfect sweet-spot!”
Top 3 tips for using vibrators for the first time
1. Let’s focus on quality!
“You get what you pay for….to an extent. I definitely believe you should be investing in your sex toys, vibrators especially. If we want an amazing toy to increase our pleasure we need to understand that might have a slightly larger price tag. However, it’s not about getting the most expensive toy out there, it’s about getting a good quality toy like the Womanizer Starlet, which is made from body friendly material that you will be able to rely on.
“This might involve doing some research into the pleasure tool that you would like to explore pre-checkout time. Size, shape and texture are all important elements to consider when selecting our new vibrating friend as well. I would suggest if you are just trying out a toy for the first time, start with the Womanizer Starlet and some water-based lubricant.”
2. Grab that lube and let’s get slippery
“Lube is an essential part of self pleasure (and partnered pleasure), particularly if we are using a new toy for the first time. Lube just makes the exploration a little bit smoother (pun intended), and for any first time we want it as smooth as it can get! Lube can also help with heightened sensitivity, increasing our pleasure before the vibrations even touch us. Now make sure you find a lubricant that works for you AND your toy! Some lubes will be a bad idea for some toys, such as silicone lube cannot be used with any silicone toys, so work out what you need.”
3. Finally, don’t be afraid to explore!
“We might think we know exactly how a vibrator works, you just get naked, turn it on and BAM, orgasm town population you. However, there are many ways you might find pleasure through your vibrator, so let’s not rush things. Explore your body with the vibrator, see what feels good. Work out how you want the vibrator to move, what pressure, if any, to use. Are you stroking with it? Rubbing? Circular patterns? There is no right or wrong way to feel pleasure, so don’t rush to one spot until you’ve explored all your options.”
How does a Womanizer work?
Womanizer’s award-winning clitoral vibrators are equipped with their patented Pleasure Air Technology, enclosing your clitoris without touching it whilst stimulating it via soft pressure waves that mimic oral sex. Plus, all Womanizer products are 100 per cent waterproof -making them easy to keep clean and perfect for experimenting outside the bedroom.
You can explore the full Womanizer range via Lovehoney here – and don’t worry, they use discreet packaging!
Chantelle Otten is a Melbourne based Psycho-Sexologist. She has a Bachelor in Psychological Science; Masters of Science Medicine, Sexual Health/Psychosexual Therapy; went to the ESSM School of Sexual Medicine; and is a European Federation of Sexology (EFS) and European Society of Sexual Medicine (ESSM) certified Psycho-Sexologist.
This article was originally published on May 14, 2020 and was updated on December 9, 2020.