AFLW player Sharni Layton wants you to stop apologising
How many times a day do you say ‘sorry’? It’s fine if you genuinely make a mistake, but for being yourself? Forget about it, says AFLW player Sharni Layton.
Growing up, Sharni Layton recalls being “kind of loud” and “a little abrupt”.
“It wasn’t very ladylike,” she tells Body+Soul’s Healthy-Ish podcast.
“And I didn’t feel like I fit it in a lot. And I rubbed a few people the wrong way throughout my career.”
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So many women over the years have been told they’re too opinionated, or too loud, or too ‘bossy’, but in her maturity, the AFLW player has learned that not everyone has to like you and that you shouldn’t ever have to say sorry for being who you are.
“Saying, ‘Well, actually, just because you don’t like my personality, I don’t have to apologise for being me,” she says.
“I think we need a lot more accepting in this world of people with different personalities and don’t get offended if not everyone likes us.”
Her new book has a fitting title, then. No Apologies is a memoir, depicting Layton’s 14 years as professional netballer during which she won two World Cups and a Commonwealth Games gold medal.
But in 2018, she took a six-month hiatus from sport due to poor mental health.
“Because I had that persona of being a bit of a tough chick,” she says.
“I was too embarrassed to say so because I thought that that would then affect my persona and how people saw me.”
After her break, Layton switched codes to join the Collingwood Magpies, and now uses her platform to advocate for mental health.
“But now I know that vulnerability is actually a strength,” she says, and adds that being kind to yourself is important if you’re struggling with mental health issues.
No Apologies by Sharni Layton (Affirm Press, RRP $29.95) is out now.