Mind & Body

Heart or head? Which should you listen to at pivotal points in your life?

Spiritual teacher and author of Brave: Courageously live your truth, Sheila Vijeyarasa gives expert advice on how to tap into your intuition and use it wisely.

Sheila Vijeyarasa went from being a corporate leader, to a spiritual medium, so she knows a thing or two about the tug of war between what goes on in our heads and how we feel in our hearts.

Speaking on Body+Soul’s daily podcast Healthy-ish, Vijeyarasa says that there are different types of ‘clairs’ (the French word for clear) that we can receive intuition though. These include clairvoyance (visualising), clairaudience (hearing), claircognizance (knowing) and clairsentience (feelings).

“Have you ever had that? Just knowing the phone’s going to ring or that you’re going to be late or you’re going to be early to a meeting,” she asks host Felicity Harley on the Healthy-ish episode Dial up your intuition.

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That feeling, sound, sight, knowledge is otherwise known as your intuition, and Vijeyarasa says this is something we need to listen to more.

“Intuition is your greatest power. And when you trust it, it becomes your greatest superpower…I describe it as that gut feeling that you just can’t ignore. And you know something? So many times we try to ignore our gut feeling,” she says.

It might help to imagine your intuition is your ‘heart’ and your rational thoughts as your ‘head’.

Vijeyarasa says that your ‘head’ or rational thought, represents our ‘safety’ or ‘comfort zone’. It also has a sense of authority.

“It’s going to be the voice of your father, your mother, your partner, your partner, your boss. It’s going to be a voice of authority. And this voice is going to keep you stuck. It’s a small voice; the voice of your intuition is louder,” she says.

There’s certainly a place for ‘head’ thinking in our lives, but these thoughts that save us from trouble can also stop us from realising our full potential. They’re limiting thoughts.

You’ve likely experienced it before; one of those pivotal moments where your brain is begging you to retreat, yet at the same time, your heart is pushing you towards that path.

That driving force is your intuition.

“When you move past the limiting beliefs, you can move more into an intuitive state and start to dream, start to listen to the voice of intuition and you can listen to it without judgement…The doors will open to create it [your dream] for you,” she says.

So – how can we create space for intuitive thinking in our lives?

1. Listen

Your intuition is subtle, so the first step is to drown out the rest of the world’s noise and tune in internally.

“Your intuition is accessed when you slow down your normal, alert beta brainwaves and you enter the slower frequency alpha and theta states,” she says.

“So how do you do that? You have to experiment with different types of meditation. There is no one size fits all. Try guided meditation, breath, nature walks.”

“When you slow down, all of the noise of your life disappears. Haven’t you found that? And suddenly that voice that has been trying to speak to you – you can start to access it.”

2. Write it down

“The next stage to get better at listening to your intuition is to start journal writing. You’ve got to start writing down all the intuitive guidance you’re receiving. If not, it kind of overloads in your mind and you can’t receive more of what I call downloads.”

When you’re writing this down, don’t think about whether or not you’re actually going to do these things yet. Just write it down, without judgement, and you can make sense of it later.

3. Take action

“The next step, which I think is a powerful step, is to work with a coach, mentor or a spiritual teacher. You have to not just listen to your intuition, you have to put it into practice in your life,” she explains.

“You’ve got to make the changes. Take the big, bold leaps in your life that your intuition is telling you to take, because quite often we get stuck, don’t we?

There you have it guys, between your heart and your head, the heart has to win out every time.

Find out about Sheila’s book Brave: Courageously live your truth (Rockpool Publishing, $29.99), here.