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Looking for the best sex toys for couples, for women for beginners or for just about anyone else? We’ve got you covered, with the ultimate guide on all the very best sex toys you need to know about.

Sex toys are one of those things that just seem oh so intimidating until you take the plunge and buy your first one.

There’s so many buzzwords floating around (pun intended) in relation to them – rabbits, clit stimulators, bullets, eggs, kegel balls, dildos – and honestly, sometimes it’s hard to keep up with what’s what and which ones you should put your hard-earned money towards. No matter how big or small your budget, there’s definitely a sex toy for you that’s worth investing in – it’s just the matter of working out exactly which one (or ones) that is.

So luckily for you, we’ve compiled this nifty guide of absolutely everything you need to know about sex toys, including where to buy them, how to care for them and even how to use them – as well as the best options for women, for couples, for the eco-conscious, for beginners and so many more.

In a year of social distancing and a global pandemic, sex toys have been the perfect distraction and responsible source of pleasure, especially if you’re single.

They can spice things up in the bedroom, and no matter your relationship status, they can alleviate stress and anxiety — which, let’s face it, there’s been no shortage of this year.

Unsurprisingly, sex toy sales have been WAY up in 2020, with some brands reporting an increase of over 200 percent from last year – so we asked online retailer Lovehoney for the goss on the hottest toys of the year.

Top pick: Womanizer X Lovehoney Pro40 Rechargeable Clitoral Stimulator, $169.95 at Lovehoney

Easily the most talked-about sex toy this year, and one of the most popular to buy, the Womanizer Pro40 offers some of the most intense orgasms ever. It combines gentle suction with pulsations to stimulate your sensitive clitoral nerve endings with a featherlight contactless caress.

This collaboration is exclusive with Lovehoney, with six levels of intensity, a sleek and waterproof design, and a silken silicone head to encircle the clitoris.

You can find the rest of the best-selling sex toys of 2020 here.

Sex toys aren’t just a great way to boost your physical and mental health -they’re great for sharing too and can help enhance relationships. Couples that use toys communicate 20 per cent more than others, and 29 per cent of couples that use vibrators have no qualms giving their partners directions in bed, according to We-Vibe.

While they’re often seen as a single person’s domain, sex toys can actually enhance partnered sex to make simultaneous orgasms easier to achieve, to open your mind to new opportunities for pleasure, and to bring you closer as a couple. We found the top ten best toys for couples, and here’s what came in at number one:

Top pick: Lovehoney Wild Weekend Mega Couple’s Sex Toy Kit, $119.95 at Lovehoney

Containing not just one, but 11 specially selected couples toys, the Lovehoney Wild Weekend Mega Couple’s Sex Toy Kit will certainly help you get a real bang for your buck (pun intended). It’s the top-selling couples product on Lovehoney, with 281 reviews and a 4.5 out of 5 star average – and honestly, it’s a steal, with toys to tickle just about every fancy. It includes a bestselling rabbit vibrator, beginner’s butt plug, G-spot vibrator and many more.

One reviewer said “Due to the hours I work, plus family life, our sex life had suffered a little, but then this little baby arrived and wow. I don’t think I have ever orgasmed so much as I did use the toys in the set. My husband lasted forever with the cock rings. Every toy in this pack is amazing, I actually can’t pick a favourite, and they’re so powerful too. Safe to say our sex life has got better and better, one happy woman here”.

You can find all ten of the best couple’s sex toys and vibrators here.

Masturbation has been considered a dirty word for a long time, but the truth is there’s no cause for shame – it’s a perfectly healthy and fun practice that can boost your mood, relieve anxiety, improve your skin, and help you sleep better, among a myriad other things.

If you’re new to this particular type of self-love, it can all seem a bit confusing and intimidating – but fortunately, the world of sex tech is better than ever and there are plenty of toys you can use to explore your pleasure. We asked Chantelle Otten, leading Australian Psycho-Sexologist and Womanizer ambassador, for her top tips on delving into the world of sex toys.

Top pick: Womanizer Starlet, $119.95 at Lovehoney

The Womanizer Starlet, $119.95 at Lovehoney uses Womanizer’s patented Pleasure Air Technology to stimulate your clitoris without physical contact – making it great for total newbies who aren’t sure where to begin. It offers four levels of intensity, is waterproof, and is also super lightweight and ergonomically shaped.

Chantelle’s tips: “Remember this is the perfect beginner toy, so start by putting this on the lowest setting and moving it in circular motions around the clitoris (not on top) and lowly start to build the pleasure in the sensitive areas. Add a bit of lube for extra pleasure.”

Read our full guide to the best toys for beginners here.

You may not have realised it, but the sex toy industry can have a pretty huge impact on the planet – which is a bit of a bummer, because sex toys can be an amazing tool for your own sexual ~liberation~ and wellbeing.

But we’re not here to shame or to tell you to quit buying all the sex toys, condoms and lube you require, because fortunately, the eco-friendly, vegan and organic sex industry is growing steadily and provides some fab green alternatives to all your faves.

From solar powered and biodegradable vibrators to vegan condoms and organic lubes, we’ve done the research to help you bring that ethical feeling to all your sexual exploits so you can love yourself sick (and not the planet).

Top pick: Gaia Eco Biodegradable Vibrator, $16 at Free People

Available in three cute colours (coral, green and aqua), The Gaia Eco Bullet is the world’s first biodegradable vibe – so it’s as safe for the environment as it is for you.

Crafted from starch-based bioplastic with a classic tapered bullet design, it can provide satisfying internal or external stimulation with a quiet motor and multi speed vibrations you can access by twisting the dial. And at the end of its life, you can recycle it – so you’ll be feeling good in more ways than one.

Find out more about eco-friendly sex toys and vegan condoms and lubes here.

New to the world of couples vibrators, or a return customer looking for something new to add to your collection? Either way, listen up – because no matter how familiar you are with sex toys, there’s always something new around the corner that could provide that extra level of pleasure you didn’t even know was possible to achieve.

If you’re keen to branch out beyond the standard bullet to experiment with more out-there options, we’ve got you covered with the best next-level sex toys to try out.

Top pick: b-Vibe Anal Training 7 Piece Education Set, $199.99 at Femplay

A Journal of Sexual Medicine study found that of the 31 per cent of women who’d engaged in anal play in their most recent sexual encounter, 94 per cent had an orgasm – so forget the taboo around the subject and try it out with this beginner set from b-Vibe.

It includes three plug sizes to help you find your best fit and work your way up if you’re not quite certain, as well as handy accessories like a lube applicator, anal enema to clean things up before you play, a travel bag and an instructional guide.

Check out all of the best next-level sex toys here.

When you think of erotic fiction, what comes to mind? Laughable descriptions of sex? Uncomfortable romances lacking in chemistry? Cringeworthy BDSM sequences à la 50 Shades of Grey?

For better or worse, there’s no denying that the erotica genre is packed full of novels – and most tend to lean towards the aforementioned undesirable stylings. But believe it or not, hidden within the trash there is a treasure trove of erotic novels that will keep you feeling warm on the coldest of nights with steamy sex scenes that won’t leave you laughing in second-hand embarrassment.

Top pick: Bared To You by Sylvia Day, $19.59 at Amazon

Described as the non-cringey version of EL James’ 50 Shades series, Bared To You kicks off a sexy saga that provides endless amounts of fun for any reader. It follows the steamy relationship between Eva and the possessive Gideon, two damaged people who try to make their jagged ends meet. It has sex scenes aplenty, but unlike those of E.L. James, they’ll actually get you in the mood thanks to Day’s polished, sensual writing. You can buy a five-book collection of her works (including Bared To You) here.

A reviewer wrote “I seriously could not stop reading!! Insanely intense attraction between Gideon Cross and Eva… definitely a page turner. LOVE IT!!!”

Find even more cringe-free erotic books to read here.

Curious to see what happens in other people’s bedroom? Well here’s a little insight into what goes on between the sheets – and it involves a magic wand.

The strongest vibrator style on the market, wands feature a large head to spread far-reaching vibrations across the body. They can be used for intimate as well as deep-tissue massage, making them a fun solo toy as well as a perfect addition to foreplay.

Wands make masturbation easy as you hold the handle, add some water-based lube to the head, and reach the clitoris without having to move. Magic, hey?

Top pick: Classic Magic Wand Vibrator, $62.97 at Lovehoney

Yep, new data from Lovehoney has revealed that the Classic Magic Wand Vibrator is the most positively reviewed sex toy on the site. In fact, it’s had around 3000 five-star reviews. That’s a lot of very satisfied customers.

It features multiple vibration speeds that can be easily changed with a scroll wheel, as well as a super-long 1.8 metre cable which means that you have plenty of room to play with, plus the battery will never cut out on you (because there’s nothing worse than that!).

Read more about why the Magic Wand gets such great reviews here.

2020 delivered us some shocking sex-related news: in addition to the gender pay gap, there is also a masturbation gap. Studies have shown women engage in self pleasure 68 percent less frequently than their male counterparts, and British singer Lily Allen believes the reason for this is the stigma surrounding female masturbation and vibrators.

“Sex toys are still seen as a taboo subject because they are related to masturbation and female pleasure,” she says. “Female pleasure in itself is a taboo subject. The only way to make taboo subjects no longer taboo is to speak about them openly, frequently and without shame or guilt.”

So, as part of the #IMasturbate campaign, Lily released her very own Womanizer sex toy to combat the masturbation gap – and according to reviews, it’s one of the best new releases of the year.

Top pick: Womanizer Liberty by Lily Allen, $149.95 at Lovehoney

The hot pink and orange palm-sized Womanizer Liberty by Lily Allen is waterproof, lightweight, has six intensity levels, and comes with a hygienic case so you can take your pleasure anywhere.

It’s a clitoral stimulator, meaning that it uses Womanizer’s patented Pleasure Air Technology to combine gentle suction with soft pressure waves that create a whole-body orgasm like nothing you’ve ever experienced before.

It’s rechargeable and comes with a magnetic travel cover and silky bag to keep it safe from prying eyes, even while travelling.

Read more about the Lily Allen Womanizer toy here.

65 per cent: that’s how big the masturbation gap is in Australia, according to research published by Womanizer, with men self-pleasuring 155 times a year and women just 54.

Not only does masturbation reduce stress, improve sleep and relieve period and muscle cramps, it’ll also boost your mood, which makes that “personal” time a worthy investment.

If you’re unsure about masturbating, try using a sex toy – according to Womanizer, they help one in six women feel less ashamed about doing it and 25 per cent achieve orgasm more easily.

Top pick: Par Femme MMM Rabbit Vibrator, $139.95 at The Iconic

With a design popularised in TV show Sex And The City, not only does the Par Femme MMM Rabbit boast 10 different vibration patterns, it’s also waterproof and comes with an impressive two hours of rechargeable battery life. The quiet motor lets you play discreetly, and the medical silicone and ABS plastic are perfectly safe for your body.

The sleek minimalist design is ideal for those who find themselves a bit intimidated by the full-on “lifelike” devices of yore, too – simply choose from blush pink or navy blue.

Check out all of the best female-focused sex toys here.

Where to buy sex toys

Gone are the days of sneaking into slightly dodgy neon-lit sex shops to try to covertly inspect the array of toys on offer without making eye contact with any of the other customers – there’s now a huge number of online retailers from which you can shop a wide range of toys to suit all your pleasures. Here are a few of our faves:

How to use sex toys

It depends on the specific toy in question, but generally, you should start as you would with any type of sex – with plenty of foreplay!

When introducing the toy, make sure to have lube at hand (this water-based lube from Lovehoney is great, but make sure to check that it’s compatible with your toy). Lube is essential for sex, especially when you’re using toys, as it makes everything a little smoother (literally and figuratively) and can even heighten sensitivity and pleasure.

Explore the different ways you can use the toy on different parts of your or your partner’s body, the motions you can use with it, and work out what feels best for you – there’s no wrong way to do it!

How to clean sex toys

Cleaning your sex toys is really important if you want to avoid infections and make keep your toys in top-notch condition for as long as possible.

It’s super easy – start by giving the toy a quick rinse (or wipe down with a damp cloth if its not waterproof), then spray with a sex toy cleaner (the Lovehoney Fresh Toy Cleaner has stellar reviews), then wipe any ridges or crevices before giving it another quick rinse. Make sure that you remove any batteries and close compartments tightly before rinsing, and don’t store your toy away until it has completely air dried.

Where to store sex toys

While the conversation around sex and sex toys is becoming increasingly open and transparent, most of us aren’t quite ready to leave our intimate devices lying about where anyone could see them. But you shouldn’t get into the habit of shoving all your toys in the bottom of a drawer – you have to store them safely and carefully to ensure you get the best life out of them.

Some sex toys – including those that are made of silicone, rubber and latex – can be reactive alongside other toys made of similar materials, and could even become melted or misshapen when thrown together carelessly! Some toys come with cases or drawstring bags which is great for safe storage. If you don’t have a place to store yours, Lovehoney offer plenty of cheap and cheerful bags, lockable cases, and boxes to keep things safe, secure and hygienic.

Looking for more great sex tips? Here’s how to have a blended orgasm that’ll blow your mind, and this is everything you need to know about mindful masturbation.